I feel sad, angry, and hurt

flyingstar2002 · January 11th, 2009, 05:46 AM

I sat in a restaurant today with my boyfriend's family, helping them plan a wedding for his brother's girlfriend, Sue. We got into the discussion of who was going to cook the food and prepare it before the ceremony was over. This is when my boyfriend's mother suggested that the two bridesmaids, Betty and Penny, who also happen to be her daughters, should cook the food instead and Sue should make me and my boyfriend's niece a bridesmaid. I immediately spoke up and suggested that we just hire someone to cook the food or ask someone else. After all, who Sue has in her wedding is her decision. Then Sue got upset and said to her future mother-in-law, "She's not family. She's not blood." It really hurt me that she would say that about me. It was bad enough not being asked to be part of the wedding, feeling excluded and picked over, but I sucked it up and came to help her. I am just as much family as she is. What angers me more is that I didn't stand up for myself. I just sat there in silence. I don't know why she is so angry with me. And I don't know why I am letting her upset me so much. I want to confront her about it, but I hate confronting people. I try to sleep and I keep playing it over in my head. What should I do?

kraftykid · February 6th, 2009, 08:23 PM

I would just let it go. IMHO there is nothing that can be said to someone so unsensitive and it could create a bigger problem in the family.

botusli1 · May 26th, 2010, 09:49 PM

don't think about it, some people are just that way, let it go and be happy

Domas · September 2nd, 2010, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by kraftykid

I would just let it go. IMHO there is nothing that can be said to someone so unsensitive and it could create a bigger problem in the family.

That is right, just let it go..

January 11th, 2009, 05:46 AM	#1
flyingstar2002 M.A.G. Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2	I feel sad, angry, and hurt I sat in a restaurant today with my boyfriend's family, helping them plan a wedding for his brother's girlfriend, Sue. We got into the discussion of who was going to cook the food and prepare it before the ceremony was over. This is when my boyfriend's mother suggested that the two bridesmaids, Betty and Penny, who also happen to be her daughters, should cook the food instead and Sue should make me and my boyfriend's niece a bridesmaid. I immediately spoke up and suggested that we just hire someone to cook the food or ask someone else. After all, who Sue has in her wedding is her decision. Then Sue got upset and said to her future mother-in-law, "She's not family. She's not blood." It really hurt me that she would say that about me. It was bad enough not being asked to be part of the wedding, feeling excluded and picked over, but I sucked it up and came to help her. I am just as much family as she is. What angers me more is that I didn't stand up for myself. I just sat there in silence. I don't know why she is so angry with me. And I don't know why I am letting her upset me so much. I want to confront her about it, but I hate confronting people. I try to sleep and I keep playing it over in my head. What should I do?

February 6th, 2009, 08:23 PM	#2
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 82	I would just let it go. IMHO there is nothing that can be said to someone so unsensitive and it could create a bigger problem in the family.

May 26th, 2010, 09:49 PM	#3
botusli1 Junior Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: ny Posts: 16	don't think about it, some people are just that way, let it go and be happy