my anxeity has taken over me

italianscorpio89 · December 23rd, 2009, 09:28 PM

okay i KNOW i have anxiety. i dont know what anxiety attack is or what it looks like, but i feel like i have it for long periods of time. usually it happenes when i talk to my ex (he broke up with me 6 months ago and i still love him) we talk alot but when he isnt talking to me. my heart starts pumping faster. when i see him logged in on the dating website we found eachother at. i get freaked out, because i feel like he is talking to other girls. it happens when we text, IM etc etc. (we had a 2 and a half year long distance relationship) i never tell him that i have this feeling going on.

some back ground info: he broke up with me becuase of how i was and what i did. i was always playing the victum, complained about EVERYTHING, always was depressed and irrational and basically immature. when i noticed what he was talking about. i tryed to change for him but as time went on, i knew that would not work (bakc then i just thought it was a personality flaw that i had to wrok on) now recently i noticed its MORE than that. its my entire image...discovering why i do this and how can i change it. but what scares me is that he has lost interest, but i feel like i can change his minde by having him see me again and showing him my true self. so can anyone tell me how to control this...anxeity? or how to handle it better? it is one thing i am tryign to work on and discover y it happens and i cant seem to know how to fix it or make the situation better...

elephantshoes · March 16th, 2010, 05:58 PM

I'm in the same position. My boyfriend of nearly 4 years broke up with me a couple months ago and I'm still dealing with it. I found out he fooled around with someone Valentines Day weekend and it killed me. I cried...my heart started racing...i was losing my breath and I was just out of control. I've noticed that i can't help but look at his facebook profile... text him something random... and call him every night before bed. My anxiety can still be bad knowing the fact that he doesn't want a relationship right now and that things didn't go right for us. But slowly it goes away... and my advice to you is find a hobby to get your frustration out and concentrate on something else. Or right exactly what your feeling at that point. It makes you focus on something and lets you just breathe. I can't really give you any other advice because I'm in the same position but thats what I've been doing lately.

December 23rd, 2009, 09:28 PM	#1
italianscorpio89 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: CA, USA Posts: 1	my anxeity has taken over me okay i KNOW i have anxiety. i dont know what anxiety attack is or what it looks like, but i feel like i have it for long periods of time. usually it happenes when i talk to my ex (he broke up with me 6 months ago and i still love him) we talk alot but when he isnt talking to me. my heart starts pumping faster. when i see him logged in on the dating website we found eachother at. i get freaked out, because i feel like he is talking to other girls. it happens when we text, IM etc etc. (we had a 2 and a half year long distance relationship) i never tell him that i have this feeling going on. some back ground info: he broke up with me becuase of how i was and what i did. i was always playing the victum, complained about EVERYTHING, always was depressed and irrational and basically immature. when i noticed what he was talking about. i tryed to change for him but as time went on, i knew that would not work (bakc then i just thought it was a personality flaw that i had to wrok on) now recently i noticed its MORE than that. its my entire image...discovering why i do this and how can i change it. but what scares me is that he has lost interest, but i feel like i can change his minde by having him see me again and showing him my true self. so can anyone tell me how to control this...anxeity? or how to handle it better? it is one thing i am tryign to work on and discover y it happens and i cant seem to know how to fix it or make the situation better...

March 16th, 2010, 05:58 PM	#2
elephantshoes Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Minnesota Posts: 5	I'm in the same position. My boyfriend of nearly 4 years broke up with me a couple months ago and I'm still dealing with it. I found out he fooled around with someone Valentines Day weekend and it killed me. I cried...my heart started racing...i was losing my breath and I was just out of control. I've noticed that i can't help but look at his facebook profile... text him something random... and call him every night before bed. My anxiety can still be bad knowing the fact that he doesn't want a relationship right now and that things didn't go right for us. But slowly it goes away... and my advice to you is find a hobby to get your frustration out and concentrate on something else. Or right exactly what your feeling at that point. It makes you focus on something and lets you just breathe. I can't really give you any other advice because I'm in the same position but thats what I've been doing lately.